Carey Linde has been practising law for 39 years. In that time, he raised three children to adulthood as a single father parent. He is a member of Vancouver M.E.N., a past member of Seattle M.E.N., and a participant in a men’s group. He obtained his B.A. in psychology and law degree from the University of British Columbia, where he was the acting president of the student body and president of his graduating class in law school.
Carey is a strong advocate for consensus over conflict. But he won’t avoid the just fight when reason fails. He is a member of the Trial Lawyers’ Association of British Columbia and a past member of the American Trial Lawyers’ Association.
Carey Linde pioneered the movement for equal-time shared parenting in the courts of Canada. His practice is aimed at ensuring children can keep both parents meaningfully in their lives.
How We Are Different
We have always believed that children need their fathers in their lives just as much as they need their mothers – no less. We have been fighting for this idea since before phrases such as “co-parenting” and “shared parenting” became popular. We help any parent – mother or father – who is being pushed out of their children’s lives by the other.
Most often we act for fathers, because the biases in society frequently favor women over men when it comes to children. Unfortunately this bias is still seen often in Family Law. However, neither gender has a monopoly on virtue and we also act for mothers in those rare circumstances where the father has custody and is keeping a loving and capable mother out of the children’s lives.
We will not act for a parent who:
- Wants to use the kids as a weapon against the other parent.
- Wants to remove the other parent from the lives of their children.
- Wants the kids to live with them just to get child support from the other parent.
There are only two circumstances under which we will act for a parent seeking sole custody and principal residence:
- When the other parent is not willing to foster and facilitate a healthy, positive and meaningful relationship for the children with our client parent, but our client will do so for the other parent.
- The other parent’s parenting skills are sufficiently and seriously deficient, clearly demonstrating that our client parent is an obvious better choice. We are not talking about everyday problems that most parents face. No one is perfect and we each have our own problems. We are talking about serious and easily recognizable failures on the part of the other parent.
For us the glass is always half full
Fathers often hear – from many sources – that what they seek is difficult or impossible to obtain: “It can’t be done!” “Save your money.”
We help men who don’t want their kids to have the kind of fathers who follow that type of advice. Optimisim and faith mean we see the glass always as half full and never half empty.
Even more important than money to succeed is patience
The concept of “patience,” how to gain and keep it, and how to use it to maximum advantage is such an important factor in our legal practice that we’ve dedicated a separate page to it. Click here to read it.
Along with legal help we always give coaching on how to conduct your parenting to be a better parent, which also enables you to be more successful in court. One such piece of coaching advice can be seen here at How to Succeed in Family Court.